Who are you blaming?

Blaming is harming u!
All these years I learned a pattern of behavior ..
Blaming others… 
Not just for their behavior or things that I felt was wrong…
But due to this pattern formation… was blaming on things they did not do…
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Maybe it’s not true you…
You might have learned this behavior from someone else… maybe a friend
Who had this pattern… or maybe a parent or sibling…
You took This pattern as a way to communicate ..
You might think it’s normal…
I used to think that too..
But what I could never understood that instead of helping or correcting the situation..other person doesn’t really behave the way I wanted… or better the other person felt guilt, anger and frustration..
Relationship becomes sour…
And you get into a loop of blaming - hurting- not accepting…
Because you were already hurt… then you  tried to tell the person what they did… n instead of help or betterment… situations get worse…
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Now let’s see how it should be…
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Are you listening to yourself?

You become friends with someone...you like their company...slowly friendship grows...
And what you see is the charm is little but harm is more...
You find yourself in a place you don’t want to give up on friendship nor on yourself...
You stay there...you continue it...
It keeps harming you...keep making your life miserable...
But you are stick to your beliefs and you are trying to make it work again and again...
Trauma
Trauma
Trauma
Not only to you but to other person too...
Here comes the part where you tell yourself...i can’t handle it anymore and i need to move on in my life...
You can’t deal with day and night...
You guys might not be together...but your mind still works on the same path... so here comes 3 most powerful and hardest words of your life...
LET IT GO....
But how?? You like that person and you can live even miserably but can’t leave that person...
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Still things continue at a small phase, silently outside ...loudly inside..
Here comes the life...
After few years you met another friend...we start living together...
So chilled! So anxious! So terrified!
Somehow that was the only good option in a new city...
Time passes by...and you realize...
You can be friend with other people..without toxicity ...
Without trauma... without battles... without blaming games...
And now those 3 words make sense to you. ..
LET IT GO!
And now you apply it...and slowly start your healing...
And realize you are lovable...you can live with other beings...you can live happily with other people...
You can laugh,tease be yourself and other people can handle it...
You can put your thought and other people can accept it...
It really takes a lot of effort to begin a new life...with new people...
But for your sake you need to put together everything and sometimes dump that shit out of your system to put your life back in order...
You owe to yourself...
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It took me years to understand …
Those things which deny your peace and are not comfortable with your way of living doesn’t mean you are lacking anything ..
There are lots of people in the world and there are ones who resonate you and make you grow more…
It’s OK to end a relationship with anyone and listen to your inner self…
Listen to yourself…
You know from inside what is right and what feels wrong…
You know what is to be done..
You know what is good for you… but you need to listen to yourself first!
Don’t put your beliefs up and heart down..
Listen and work accordingly. .

-Amrata sharma