journey or destination

Sometimes i just feel i am anxiously running n searching for something... Home!  But i never found... Not even such a place...  I think i ll never find such thing... I ll have to create one inside me. 

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He says i want to love someone like u love me...  What a wierd feeling that puts in u... 

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Expect to accept... Journey is tougher than pronunciation. 

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Sometimes all u ll get is journey.... Without destination...  U ll have to learn to enjoy journey... Coz sometimes death is the only destination u got. 

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healthy living

Eating healthy is hard. Meditating is hard. Exercising is hard. Changing oneself is hard. Cultivating a fulfilling relationship is hard. Building a successful business is hard. Being a good parent is hard.

The trick is, if you can learn to love the feeling of making effort in the right direction, of being challenged and stretched, then there is nothing you cannot achieve. You will have many things that others wish but can’t achieve—like health, wealth, love, self-mastery, fulfilment, “success”.

Let’s take the example of better health and losing weight, with the efforts needed being exercise and dieting.

What you need to do is try to go to the gym with a glad attitude in your heart. Then, during exercise, tell yourself how good it feels—and try to feel it. After you’re finished, pay attention to any positive sensations or emotions that come up as a result of that effort. With a bit of practice, you will actually start liking it, and then your goals will be more easily achieved—without so much struggle

self worth!!!

We don't need others to dictate our self-worth 

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In the era of social media this is the first problem we are facing : 

Our sense of self worth is validated by others by likes, dislikes, by comments, by how someone is reacting ,by how your popularity is growing . 

It's really important to know we don't need others to be happy we need to love ourselves to be happy.....

The more you show your life here the more you will develop anxiety for "what others think " 

If you are thinking "no i am not into this trap"...  Think again.. 

Remember how you checked constantly who is liking your photos on facebook... 

Remember telling your friends to like your posts and comment on them...  So that you can become popular... 

And tik-tok which made people famous in their own world...  N makes you forget where real world actually lies... 

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Pause for a few days from social media and you will know... You are actually not that popular, liked, n wowed by people...  They just scroll up things n you gained just fraction of their distracted attention... That made you happy for a while and sad by seeing someone else gaining more popularity... 

Such things were previously only seen in public figures... But it's increasing in normal population... 

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Now you need someone to shake you up and say...  Hello,  you are beautiful inside and nobody needs to tell you this... You need to feel this. You don't need a validation from others.

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-amu

protection or bondage?

 

I am a girl and i want to ask you....

Why a girl needs permission? From parents or from husband? Or in laws?

Why it's other people who tells us what we can't do.?

Girls can't wrestle, can't fight, can't drive properly, can't.... Oh bloody can't...

Why my dreams are harder to fulfill than yours?

Why I have to rely on someone else for my life decisions?

Why there is a line for me?

Why I have been told my limitations?

Why there is to be difference between pursuing your life as a girl and as a guy?

Why you have to scare the girl to go out in this world?

Why can't I fight my own fight?

Why I need a man?

Why if I want to respect your decision... You can't respect my dreams?

Why my certain Dreams are valid and certain dreams are not valid.?

Why in life lessons I need to learn to sit at home,Take care of my family only?

Why you take hold on my life... While u are messed up in yours?

Why you are scare of a stronger girl?

Why you don't understand love and only understand rebel.

It's not just save girl child... You need to nurture her, educate her... And please when you do... Have faith and provide independence or it must be snatched.

Ask yourself ... are you protecting me>?? or keeping me in a bondage?

Every person is independent and have their rights to make their own decisions... When law permits it why can't you?

Don't Rott your plant by overprotecting it... Let it grow... Let it cut... Let it learn.

-Amu

Who are you blaming?

Blaming is harming u!
All these years I learned a pattern of behavior ..
Blaming others… 
Not just for their behavior or things that I felt was wrong…
But due to this pattern formation… was blaming on things they did not do…
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Maybe it’s not true you…
You might have learned this behavior from someone else… maybe a friend
Who had this pattern… or maybe a parent or sibling…
You took This pattern as a way to communicate ..
You might think it’s normal…
I used to think that too..
But what I could never understood that instead of helping or correcting the situation..other person doesn’t really behave the way I wanted… or better the other person felt guilt, anger and frustration..
Relationship becomes sour…
And you get into a loop of blaming - hurting- not accepting…
Because you were already hurt… then you  tried to tell the person what they did… n instead of help or betterment… situations get worse…
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Now let’s see how it should be…
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Keep reading my blog for solutions... I will be posting it in next blog...
Keep following...

Are you listening to yourself?

You become friends with someone...you like their company...slowly friendship grows...
And what you see is the charm is little but harm is more...
You find yourself in a place you don’t want to give up on friendship nor on yourself...
You stay there...you continue it...
It keeps harming you...keep making your life miserable...
But you are stick to your beliefs and you are trying to make it work again and again...
Trauma
Trauma
Trauma
Not only to you but to other person too...
Here comes the part where you tell yourself...i can’t handle it anymore and i need to move on in my life...
You can’t deal with day and night...
You guys might not be together...but your mind still works on the same path... so here comes 3 most powerful and hardest words of your life...
LET IT GO....
But how?? You like that person and you can live even miserably but can’t leave that person...
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Still things continue at a small phase, silently outside ...loudly inside..
Here comes the life...
After few years you met another friend...we start living together...
So chilled! So anxious! So terrified!
Somehow that was the only good option in a new city...
Time passes by...and you realize...
You can be friend with other people..without toxicity ...
Without trauma... without battles... without blaming games...
And now those 3 words make sense to you. ..
LET IT GO!
And now you apply it...and slowly start your healing...
And realize you are lovable...you can live with other beings...you can live happily with other people...
You can laugh,tease be yourself and other people can handle it...
You can put your thought and other people can accept it...
It really takes a lot of effort to begin a new life...with new people...
But for your sake you need to put together everything and sometimes dump that shit out of your system to put your life back in order...
You owe to yourself...
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It took me years to understand …
Those things which deny your peace and are not comfortable with your way of living doesn’t mean you are lacking anything ..
There are lots of people in the world and there are ones who resonate you and make you grow more…
It’s OK to end a relationship with anyone and listen to your inner self…
Listen to yourself…
You know from inside what is right and what feels wrong…
You know what is to be done..
You know what is good for you… but you need to listen to yourself first!
Don’t put your beliefs up and heart down..
Listen and work accordingly. .

-Amrata sharma 

I am sensitive!

I am sensitive!  A term commonly used these days by many of us.
We are sensitive to many things these days.... Memes, likes, accepted or rejected friend requests... If someone calls or not on your birthday...
Why he isn't available online?  Why he don't do what I do?

We became sensitive to simple 'no'...

Being sensitive is converting into being fragile....
Tolerance has been decreased. Women are so feminist these days they can't handle criticism. Patience of listening to others, respect of others opinions ...are rarely seen.

But they hurt my feelings!
If they are saying something about my personal life.... If they have opinions about me... Off course I am going to be reacting this way!
This is normal... If they will do that I will get angry...

Really?  Is it normal?
So by saying this you are saying... I don't have any control of any of my outcomes... It all depends on other people...
You gave all the power to that other person...
What you feel is determined by what they say.... Not what you actually feel!

We act without thinking, we react like a chemical.... So are you really sensitive or fragile?
One small needle and balloon bursts...

What to do?
Next time before reacting to something try to stop yourself for a moment and try to listen what other person is saying... Try to understand what and why he is saying that?
And then ask yourself does it really affect me?
Or its just an opinion or advice or a thought.

Being sensitive is the basic human nature... To be sensitive towards pain of others, towards animals.... Towards our relationships.
Be sure of what are you sensitive about!

Amrata sharma.